It’s been quite a while since I last put my thoughts to writing. With all that’s been going on in the world today due to the Pandemic, writing- or in this case – blogging, was the last thing to cross my mind. The future still looks bleak, and I’m not saying this out of pessimism. Covid-19 has been spreading like wildfire because of the new Delta variant that’s been circulating around the globe. We’ve been trying our best to mitigate it through developing Vaccines, but the virus just has a way of keeping up with our pace. Even so, I decided to find time to articulate my learnings again because I’ve dealt with this more than a few times, and there are still so many people who had or are experiencing this unattractive trait from others.
What is Impertinence?
Simply put, Impertinence (noun) is a lack of respect, or rudeness.
For those who know me well enough, I’m usually seen as a calm and chill person. I don’t like getting into trouble with other people because that’s just not my thing, and I like to mind my own business (thank you, parents). Ironically, at some point in my seven years of being an employee, I’ve met my fair share of impertinent people along the way. No matter how hard I try to keep distance from these individuals, somehow they still manage to cross paths with me. I’ve been asked many times how I deal with this form of persecution, and I have learned a few things as a Christian that might help. This post is dedicated to my genuine Christian friends who are also experiencing the same thing, but if it resonates with you, reader, I hope you’ll be blessed and share this with others too.
Remember the acronym: UPSIDE
It takes a good amount of understanding whenever we face rudeness. Sometimes it is necessary to understand that we are susceptible to being rude ourselves, and that simple pause puts our spirits in check. We must also understand that as Christians, we are ambassadors for Christ and for God (2 Corinthians 5:20). If we give in to our anger towards these kind of people, we are shaming our own Master.
I’ve always known myself to question why people behave a certain way. I am a quiet observer and listener to everything, especially when I am not in my own turf. I am not a fan of confrontation because without a shadow of a doubt, I know I can say the most hurtful things I can possibly say. Common courtesy has become increasingly uncommon, so when we encounter rude people in our life, it is important to look at them using Jesus Christ’s lens. What would He do if He was in my place? How do I respond with grace to my oppressor? How do I show love to my neighbor (Matthew 19:19)?
This may be unusual to give to someone who is rude, but sympathizing with these people helped me realize that they have their own insecurities they are battling with, it’s just that they are projecting these anxieties on others. As a Christian, it is best to ask God for help in this area because most of the time our pride gets in the way. We forget to remember that we too are vulnerable, and that our vulnerability will one day be used against us.
Being introspective is a healthy habit to develop because it allows you to carefully ponder on how impertinence affects you as a person, and what you can do to display its opposite characteristic – politeness. If you are a genuine Christian, you must always remember that you are called by Christ to be godly. Godliness is not just being present during Sunday worship service, reading your Bible and posting Bible verses, nor being timid and shy. It is more so about the kind of Christ-like character you show to others (Titus 3:2).
Deciding is one of the hardest things to do because it means accountability and responsibility, but nonetheless we should be decisive in our efforts to be courteous towards others even if they don’t extend the same courtesy to us. We are accountable only to God, and we are commanded to do all for His glory whether we eat or drink, or whatever we do (2 Corinthians 10:31).
Last but definitely not the least, when all is said and done and you still experience the same discourteous behavior from people, entrust them to God. Pray about them and for them. This has helped me stretch out my patience for these individuals so many times. There will be moments when I am almost at my limit, but I call to mind how God has been so patient with me and I take a step back from my anger. This is why it is of utmost importance to not just read your Bible, but study it thoroughly and ask the Holy Spirit to remind you in every circumstance.
As morals and values deteriorate, may we continue to be the light and salt of this present time. Our response to all the persecution we experience be it at work, in school, or even in our own homes will determine who we really are. May we continue to hide God’s Word in our hearts, because it will be our compass to be able to navigate through this life victoriously. I hope these few tips will help you in whatever stage you are in life right now.